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Pornography
Pornography is an addiction just like other addictions.
Addictions result because of a need. All addicts have a need for some sort of relief from their pain. They suffer from pains in their heads, their hearts, their spirits and/or their bodies. They use the drugs of choice to ease that need, that pain.
It is not unusual for a former drug addict to loudly (almost proudly) testify to a congregation about their deliverance from their addictions. Because of the widespread use of drugs in our society today, such previous use of drugs is immediately forgiven because most of us understand how difficult it is to break the addiction. The crimes and criminal activities perpetrated because of their illegal drug use are also ignored.
This is also true of tobacco users. And even though the use of tobacco is responsible for more deaths than all the illegal drugs combined, it is legal and condoned by our society. And everyone sympathizes with those trying to quit this disgusting habit. And everyone fully understands when the habit overcomes and the would-be quitter returns to his/her disgusting habit.
Tobacco is also a pain reliever but normally it is used to releave stress. Anyone who flew in the earlier days and didn't smoke enjoyed the takeoff. Then, when the "Smoking Lamp" was turned on in the airplane, the cabin immediately filled with dark gray tobacco smoke from smokers who hadn't had a cigarette for at least 30 minutes. If that was NOT relief from the stress(pain) of fear of flying, I don't know what else it could have been.
Those addicted to Pornography also have a need.
A need that is just as painful as the other addictions. It is more of a problem because of the innate physical and pyschological nature. In other words, unlike the other addictions, the curiosity to view the male and female sexual organs start at a very young age.
It is NOT unusual for a child as young as 4 or 5 years of age to become curious about the anatomy of the opposite sex. BUT upon being discovered looking at the sexual parts of the opposite sex, he/she is treated like a pervert and severely scolded or even beaten. This only causes the curiosity to be suppressed and to smolder until puberty and older. Then Pornography becomes a means of relieving that smoldering curiosity. Gradually it becomes an addiction.
BUT, when have you ever heard anyone testify of their addiction to Pornography? Or a man confessing a desire to look a woman's vagina, buttocks, and breasts? Or a woman confessing a desire to look at a male penis? Oh My God- a dirty old man or woman, or a young pervert!!
Not only do "WE" have to deal with the burning curiosity and the desire to look at the sexual parts of the opposite sex, we also have to deal with the social stygma of our desires. So it is MUCH easier to sneak around in the night and visit Pornographic websites or adult bookstores and watch adult movies on HBO channels to relieve the pain of our curiosity. Then by daylight, we are Johnny Christian.
I say"WE" because statistics show that more than half of the internet users visit Pornographic websites. This includes, statistically, half of the congregation of any given church. And an increasing amount of these pornographic website visitors are women of all ages, denominations, and races.
The truth hurts doesn't it?
But the truth is that this addiction to Pornography does NOT have to happen. Especially after a young man or woman are married. The smoldering curiosity should be quenched in the marriage bedroom. That's right boys and girls- "what happens in the marriage bedroom stays in the marriage bedroom."
So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. Genesis 1:27 (KJV)
And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
Genesis 2:25 (KJV)
And God saw every thing that he had made, and, behold, it was very good. And the evening and the morning were the sixth day. Genesis 1:31 (KJV)
God saw naked bodies and said "it was VERY GOOD." How can man say it is NOT?
However, the desire to see the wife's body or the husband's body most usually is suppressed because of the manmade religious stygma associated with the smoldering sexual curiosity that has grown into a need. Neither the wife nor husband wants the other to think of them as a sexual pervert.
Or, in many cases, the husband places his wife on a pedestal and feels that to share his desires with her would belittle her. SO, he takes his desires to another sexual partner who he is more comfortable with. This of course, is adultery, and most often leads to divorce.
In fact, it is estimated that the majority of divorces are over money and sex. So if we can declassify SEX as being dirty, then this alone will help stop Pornography AND divorces. After all- God made man and woman in His image. So a husband and wife should have NO inhibitions about their sexual desires. To keep the smoldering sexual curiosity will only lead to Pornography and ultimately divorce.
So where do we start?
We start by stopping our prudish, righteous, judging of our children. Find a way to educate them about the differences in the male and female bodies. Let them know that their curiosity is normal and that when they marry they will better understand.
Since MOST marriages start in lust, not love, start in your own married bedroom. Learn to loosen up and allow your husband or wife to see you in a provocative naked manner. Continue in the marriage bed the sexually provocative ways you had before marriage. After all, you were sexually provocative when wooing each other, so if you don't want to have to start all over again, continue being provocative forever.
I realize that this is a touchy subject and that this page will raise the ire of many prudes. But the Holy Spirit put it on my heart to do something about the increasing use of Pornography and the ever increasing divorce rate. Since so-called Christians have a slightly higher divorce rate than the secular world counterparts, by learning to have uninhibited sex in the marriage bed, these two problems will be solved.
"My people perish for lack of knowledge" (Hosea 4:6)
